Welcome to the wily world of online and free adult dating sites. You have come unto a jungle of possibilities and potential disasters. While ‘connect’ is a by word for the internet, I don’t think it can be adapted all that well to those free adult dating sites. You cannot be fooled by the word ‘free’, it doesn’t mean the getting a date is easy. No, no, no. You have to work to get noticed and when someone does catch your eye and is a willing party, you have to work to get things off the ground.
I think the main problem by people who do go online to these free adult dating sites is the fact that they expect to succeed within a few clicks of their mouse. These preconceptions lift them high of the ground with great expectations – and sends them crashing hard when weeks go by and their inbox is still as empty as the dead sea. Fret no more, for this article is written to give you a starting formula to help you get a date – maybe within a few hours. It is that quick and we can all thank the fast food revolution for this. People who go online are placed within two separate categories – those who have no time to date in real life, and those who want fast results.
The latter category are full of people who just want to start dating right away, usually the minute they meet someone they like somewhat and are adventurous enough to allow a more personal meeting to establish whether or not the initial connection has the potential for any emotional longevity at all. The former type of online single are those who have no time in real life to dance around the social circles and would like to date while on the go. These are people who prefer to start slow and go even slower. They know they have no time to go out and meet – well not like regular daters, so they allow the internet’s modes of communication to establish a connection. From online chats, e-sms’s, e-mails, forums to virtual ‘dates’, these jet setters of the world of love and life often only have enough time to log on, reply and log off. So now you know the main two types of people who join the internet dating sites and all you have to do is plan your strategy for each type of person.
Like dating, you need to have patience and you need to communicate a lot more than you would offline. Because of the physical barrier, you cannot read body language, nuances in their expression and how they react to what you say and what you do. Disembodied text has limits and you need to stretch it as far as you can. Be creative, use jokes, witty comments and as much emoticons as you can. The virtual world is filled with ‘virtual’ ways you can court the other person, from getting them digital daisies to planning a romantic virtual getaway in some exotic location. Once you have your strategy and learn to leverage on communication, then you will succeed in many free adult dating sites.